Some people might read these blog posts and think the whole ‘belligerent kid’ act was just a defense mechanism to make himself feel normal and capable.
And maybe it really was.
But… I would like to think that I would have been just as belligerent even if I was not Langda Tyagi.
Besides, chakka, chutiya, gadha, or chamiya from our class (all guys) were just as much a victim of stereotyping.
Anyone who has overcome the effects of being stereotyped can tell you –
once you stop trying so hard to prove that you are normal. The effect that it has on you starts to fade and you actually start to become normal.
This is not life advice but if you are looking for practical tips on how to get there –
1. Make it your specialty, not your shame
how you walk doesn’t make you chakka.
Once you know that, like really know that in your stomach, you can call yourself chakka.
Not everyone can be so bold to do that.
And that makes you different.
And very very guys who walk like you accept it as a bloody complement and be mentally secure enough to wear it on their chest.
That makes you truly unique.
In fact, me starting this blog was nothing but an attempt to face this thing fucking head-on!
this obviously want to work if you are actually insecure about it and just using this as a defense mechanism
Now to the 2nd tip: This one is my favorite
2. You just acknowledge that it exists.
It’s not your shell of shame that you hide under every time somebody attacks.
And it’s not your sword that you have to wield every time you are in a battle in this world!
By the way, if you didn’t get the battle analogy then you need to call your English teacher and say ‘Sir! thank you for nothing’